I think there has been a point in all of our lives that we’ve compared ourselves to our peers at least once. Good or bad we do it. It’s a way that we measure our lives, and though we shouldn’t, we try to define our success and failures against theirs. Successful people are vital to have in your lives. They can fuel you and I believe that surrounding yourself with positive and high-achieving people can have a positive effect in your own life.
There are common reasons to why some people seem to be able to do it all and have it all. My experience is that most of the successful peers in my life genuinely deserve it. They work hard and reap the benefits of doing so. Here are five things your peers are likely more successful than you:
They use their time incredibly wisely
When I say no minute is wasted I mean it. I think we’d all be surprised how much time we waste in a day. When I committed to losing weight and specifically doing my family in weekly FitBit challenges I couldn’t fathom where the time would come from for me to walk and get on the treadmill as much as I knew would be required. I was busy enough with full-time work/mom/wife/house/blog/freelance work and now needed 30-60 minutes per day taken away from something to do this. I did it though and it was easier than I thought. Though I consider myself an incredibly busy person I wasn’t using every minute of my day to max efficiency and now I’m much closer to that. Limit unnecessary social media. Turn off distractions. Make lists and actually do them rather than thinking about doing them. Just get it done.
They don’t care what you think
Caring what other people think about you is exhausting and time consuming in so many ways. Successful people do what needs to be done and don’t really care if you like them or not. I’m not suggesting all successful people are heartless a-holes but they certainly aren’t wasting time logging into Facebook to update their status in hopes to gain a few ”Likes”. The most successful people let their work do all the talking and they don’t need to boast in any way. They are confident in their lives and they don’t need your validation.
Everything. Their day, their friends and family members, their extracurricular activities. They have to. When you stay as busy as very successful people (and I’m not suggesting it’s not all work and no play), you need to form a hierarchy with everything you do. No success was built by logging into Instagram before emptying your inbox at work and no happy successful family man ever puts a friend over their child’s needs.
They don’t compare success stories
Success is such an individual and personally defined term. My level of success can’t be compared to anyone else because it’s a personal motive. They day I realized there was no way I was going to be one of those people who paid off $150k in 12 months, and that I would have to forge my own personal debt-freedom path, was they day my life got much easier. I stopped comparing myself and started putting this time and energy into actually implementing the necessary steps required to get the results I needed.
They are surrounded my like-minded individuals
Most really successful people have a network and support system in place (most, not all). It doesn’t mean your mom and dad are on the phone to congratulate you on your endeavors, it can be an online community to cheer you on- most successes are not made without some support and continued encouragement and challenges (which supports growth).
Success is never just given to someone. True success takes a lot of hard work and my experience is that most people don’t come close to putting in the required effort for the results they desire. Do it though and reap the rewards.