It’s no new secret that while in debt, and focusing finances on debt payments, you need to make some sacrifices. Namely in the form of wants. I’ve always been really good at, honestly, not wanting anything. Seriously I wish I could explain it to you all, but I just don’t allow myself to want stuff. This can be particularly annoying when people genuinely want to buy me a gift because I never have an answer for them. I just don’t want ‘stuff’ and when I do it’s usually a necessity like a broom.
I don’t know if it’s overexposure to crap like Facebook, or conversations with seemingly better off (financially) people, or my husband following the Twitter account ”Wanna Haves” but the past few weeks I’ve been building a mental ”want list”.
I seriously hate the way these desires make me feel. I find myself wanting things that I simply cannot have, maybe now, maybe never, and that realization just makes me feel like shit honestly. I’ve never compared myself to others, ever, so I can’t figure out why now suddenly, I feel like I am.
Why else would I want this stuff? I didn’t go looking for it. I just saw it somewhere and decided I wanted it too, so rationale would have it that I am subconsciously comparing myself to others or things they have.
I find myself (mentally) justifying reasons why I need these items. Like seriously Catherine, STOP IT.
Things I currently want:
- A Rec center membership. I miss going to the gym. I enjoy going out and walking but I love going to the gym. We have a great rec center about five minutes from our home that I belonged to growing up. It’s an amazing spot that my whole family could use (and will in due time) but we just can’t justify the money right now.
- A second car. Total want. We just don’t need one right now. With one kid and the way our jobs are right now we just don’t need one. It would be an awesome convenience but not necessary, yet.
- Home renovations. I could make a huge list on the things in this category, everything from new flooring to art in the bathroom. I WANT IT ALL NOW. I’ve never felt 100% settled in this home because it doesn’t feel complete to me. While we may be able to swing a pretty picture or two, ripping up carpet and buying a shed isn’t on the radar for a good number of years.
Wanting things, in general, can be detrimental to your life and how you choose to live it. Our priorities are 100% on finding debt freedom. I just need to focus my want energy back into debt freedom because there’s a life I really WANT waiting for me!
How do you balance your wants with other financial efforts?