It’s hard to believe that we’re halfway through growing this little baby and that in a few short months our lives will change significantly. It was about this time with my first pregnancy that I was freaking out about, well, just about everything. Having a baby, the money, having a baby, the money…you get my point. We had no idea what to expect. Part of my anxiety stemmed from that fact that with pregnancy #1 we were not in a great spot financially. I mean, our bills were getting paid but we paid very little attention to the ins and outs of our finances. We didn’t have a budget, let alone any emergency fund and I really had no idea what to expect when I started claiming my maternity benefits (and losing over 60% of my income…).
Thankfully a few months into my maternity leave I discovered an online niche I came to know as ‘’personal finance’’ and my life changed for the better. Not only were my eyes opened to so many things (like the beloved ER fund), it changed my relationship with money and allowed me to take control. In the last four years I’ve learned a lot, and it’s through these lessons I can blissfully take a second maternity leave, stress free. Here’s how we’re prepping financially for baby #2.
Use What We’ve Got and Fill in the Blanks
We were in a weird spot for a long time about if we would have more kids, but because of our uncertainly we held onto quite a few things. Given the lack of storage at our house, a lot of smaller/cheaper items like infant and children’s clothes we donated (keeping maybe the equivalent of two totes only) but we did hold onto all larger items like the crib, pack and play, tub, swing. Pretty much everything outside of clothes if very gender neutral which helps too since we don’t yet know what we’re having. The only things we really need this time are a car seat since our infant seat had expired (we scored one already for almost 60% off!), a diaper bag (I used my first one religiously until Maria was out of diapers/not changing her outfit four times per day due to mess, and it fell apart behind repair. Again already purchased online for $36.00 down from $215.00), and a new monitor since ours was always terrible and we just never got around to replacing (still need to buy).
The fact that we have so much starting out is a huge help. I did need to buy a few maternity clothing pieces since we’re in opposite pregnancy seasons and despite my effort looking second-hand, I eventually gave up when it was forecasting 30 degrees (Celsius) and I had no shorts that fit my ever-growing belly. I didn’t pay full price though and may have made three trips with the same discount coupon to save me the 50% on the outrageously expensive maternity clothing items.
As I said we’re in a much better spot financially, not only have we paid off tens of thousands of dollars in debt in the last four years and have a decent ER fund set aside, in general we manage our money better. We’re in the process now of looking into how things will change when I go off and what we need to prepare. We’re fortunate that our daycare situation is so flexible and willing to do whatever works for us too, a huge help since as it looks now, due to my professional licensing requirements for work I’ll be off five weeks earlier than I’d like and will probably pull her out of daycare for two full months then resume in the new year part time (I can’t justify paying a whole years’ worth of fees to work for 5 weeks, financially it makes zero sense).
Shifting Debt for Savings
Until I go off work and we have an idea of our finances, we’re going to temporarily suspend our extra debt payments and stash everything in savings instead. Once my maternity leave money starts coming in and we have an idea of how much we can budget, we’ll then throw it all on debt but in case something happens I want to know we have a cushion to fall back on (though having gone through the process once I don’t foresee anything major happening).
I’m genuinely looking forward to the next half of this pregnancy and meeting our new baby, just as a pregnancy should be. I’ll be honest, getting pregnant when we did certainly derailed a few of our financial goals temporarily but honestly, such is life. I know some people would be torn apart about it, but something I’ve definitely learned in the last four years is that defining your relationship with money is important, and for me, I never want to allow my relationship with money to take away from actually living my life, babies included.
How did you/will you prepare for kids?