Growing up, the fanciest birthday party I attended was probably a tie between a local bowling ally or a rec center swim party, neither of which were mine. I remember hearing rumors of the ”rich kids” having parties at the movie theater, complete with pizza party, movie ticket and cake though I was never offered an invitation to confirm such details.
I thought that was ridiculous in terms of parties, then I became a mother.
In June of 2012, we were, after an extremely long and complicated pregnancy, blessed with a littler girl who continues to rock our world. There isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for this kid, except throw her a 2015 standard birthday party.
When I hear details of what lengths people (mostly mothers) are going through to throw their kid’s birthday parties today, my eyeroll becomes so exaggerated its audible. Seriously.
I never really had birthday parties growing up. There certainly wasn’t any of this ”mandatory invite every kid in your class to an all expense paid excursion” crap going on. My mom would usually take me and my sister out for dinner or make one of my favorite dishes of hers then, the following weekend, I’d invite my close friends (usually 2-4 girls) over and we’d order pizza, eat candy and watch horror movies (following a Boy Meets World marathon). If we we’re feeling especially bad we’d have a sleepover, stay up past 10pm and record songs off the radio (the one with the fastest finger hitting record on the tape player).
It never entered my head that I had ”missed something” until I was a mother myself.
I don’t really feel like I missed out on anything, I know it’s a silly party but now that I’m a mom I have moments where I question if what I plan on doing (for her party), is enough? Am I really a terrible mother for depriving her of a lavish party?
Her third birthday is coming up in a few weeks. Our budget is almost non-existent (by choice). We’re having family over for the afternoon and we will provide supper, something easy likely on the BBq and I haven’t decided if I’m baking a cake/cupcakes (which I always do) or I might splurge and buy one at a store. She’s only asked for a unicorn named Bobby (still working on that) and to have her entire family come over (done!). We’ll likely drop some serious cash at the dollar store for decorations and call it a day.
I have such a love/hate relationship with sites like Pinterest. It is these types of websites, I believe, that allow me to even entertain a negative thought about if what we’re doing is ”enough”. Enough by whose standards?!
Birthdays are fun. It’s a special day 100% dedicated to you, there are so many (more important) ways to make a person feel special that require little to no money. Mark my words that not only will I never throw my kid fancy party, elevating her standards of what she gets in life, I’ll never allow myself to feel bad about it either.
What’s the craziest party you’ve been to? Age of person?